Why Seattleites Suck!
While I LOVE Seattle and the Pacific Northwest, one MAJOR problem I've had is the way people treat one another out here - it's VERY different from the Northeast (or most of the rest of the world for that matter) where I grew up, and it's one thing I'll be happy to leave behind when I move back there this August to start my assistant professorship -- people here can be passive aggressive and downright rude! My friend Vicky is throwing me a celebratory dinner this weekend (for my graduation and new job), and invited some friends - one of whom just sent me the following e-mail:
"I was going to come to Vicky’s on Saturday evening for your dinner, but then I got an opportunity to go to the Storm game. It’s opening night, and you know, well shucks-I really want to go. So sorry to miss what promises to be a great time. I wish you well and hope that our paths cross again sometime."
So, she accepted the invitation, but is now blowing off the host and me to go to a basketball game! People out here do this kind of shit far too often - make plans and then back out of them because something they think is "better" comes along. I find it exceptionally rude. Of course, I also find it rude that we've had people to our home multiple times who have never, ever reciprocated in any way - not even an invitation to go out to dinner (I understand if you don't like to cook or don't have the space, etc) or grab a drink. So, rude Seattleites, kiss my (amazing) ass - the people in Buffalo are warm, inviting and sociable - all things many of you are NOT!
posted by J. David Zacko-Smith at 14.5.08
3 Comments:
A friend back in high school taught me that when you have social conflicts, you should always go with your original commitment. I've done it ever since -- it's not always easy but it keeps me out of trouble and folks don't get offended.
Having said that, though, aren't you painting with a broad brush? I bet there are plenty of non-rude Seattleites, and plenty of rude Buffaloans!
I think I might have to go along with the broad brush theory. I think you are feeling wounded and taking it out on an entire population. I have lived everywhere, and people really aren't that different from one place to the next in my opinion.
Suggestion: Before you start inviting people to dinner in Buffalo, charm invitations out of them first. Then you can show by example how one returns the favor. Good luck!
WOW! You are making a lot of assumptions regarding my "Seattleites" post. Of COURSE I'm painting with a broad brush, but I've also had THIRTEEN years worth of experiences living here to reinforce my assertions - not to mention that I've discussed the "phenomenon" with literally dozens of people. I've lived in many different places, too (East Coast, West Coast, the South, Europe, small towns, major cities), so I think I have an informed opinion -- and as for Buffalo, I didn't have to charm invitations out of anyone - in my recent visit, many were offered! ;-) I have to disagree with you, M-Filer, I think people ARE different from one place to the next, and while it makes things totally interesting, it can also be frustrating sometimes. I'm not wounded (I have thick skin), just extremely observant.
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